THE BUSINESS OF NOT MINDING YOUR BUSINESS
How are you all doing?
I hope you are enjoying your weekend and taking some time out to catch your breath.
This is just January and we still have a long way to go in the year so my friend, relax and be taken care of.
In today's episode of "Conversations with Seme *side eye with a grin*.
Yes, you read right "CONVERSATIONS WITH SEME". We have been getting quite a few responses from you all and we thought it was best to bring these issues to the Tribe so we can all rub minds and have conversations here. As you already know, The Seme's Nooks Blog is about sharing stories and life experiences.
So Tribe here goes "CONVERSATIONS WITH SEME". It's about to go down people! Get your seat belt on.
Shall we begin?
So recently, I was having a conversation with someone and she was worried about how a friend was doing something wrong and how everyone including her has chosen not to say anything about it. Then I stopped and said "ok, I will talk to her about it then". Guess what my friend's response was?
Yes, you guessed right, "mind your business and do not say a word" and this got me thinking real hard; what is with people and not speaking out when they clearly know someone or something is wrong but instead choose to look away.
There is also the case of a child misbehaving and rather than correcting the child, an adult will look away under the disguise of "he/she is not my child, so it's none of my business".
In the golden old days, things were not like this. Especially with growing up in a rural area. Every child was everybody's own. You could get spanked by an adult for misbehaving outside and they will still ask you to report yourself to your parents when you get home. This was usually referred to as "community beating"! Raise your hand if you've ever experienced such, lol.
These days, things are quite different. I guess it has so much to do with the whole 21centenary thing and allowing people to live their lives however they like. This doesn't have to be so.
Even in organizations and circular words, you could be labeled " a bad belle" ( a hater) just for speaking out against wrongdoing or injustice.
Ok, let's pause here and read reactions from some of our Tribe members below..." I will advise you to correct them. So long as you know a good entry point into such adults to avoid embarrassment"
"In terms of parents making bad decisions for their children, we can educate them kindly and let them know the errors and dangers they are putting their children into if they are willing to listen. However, if they say Madam mind your business, ngwanu, waka dey go and pray for the child"
"In terms of a child throwing tantrums, the parents might not want me to interfere, so I just try to understand the child's big feelings and do a waka pass and pray for understanding for the parents"
"You could get beaten for interfering in other people's business. Everyone minds their business here"
" I will politely correct the child or adult"
I feel we should do more than just listening to gist about other people but take a step forward to correct them.
Sometimes people won't talk until things have gone out of place. For me, I would always say "if you like me, tell me my shortcomings now before it becomes too late for redemption". Who else is with me on this one?
Truth can be a bitter pill to swallow but I will choose it over any other thing. Speak up if and when the need arises. Correct in love and pass your message across without sounding rude or condescending.
Remember, "A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh word stairs up anger"
Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
Permit me to draw the curtain here for now while we read your feedback from the comment section.
How do you handle situations where you feel a need to speak up? We will be reading and learning from you all.