On Relationships And Letting Go

Happy New week Tribe!

I trust the month is going on smoothly. 

It is still our season of growth, and we are dancing through April as we stay through in the place of growth.

Talking about growth, I've had the privilege of being nurtured and groomed with teachings and training by the most amazing humans and team ever. Most of these I refer to here are mostly on spiritual grounds, and this has been my most valuable tool for growth. 

So recently, I got a shocker when some people pulled out of an association I belonged to. It was as if I was hit by a heavy-duty truck. Although not directly involved in the leadership myself, but just merely sitting to listen to their teaching and sharing life experiences in helping others grow was a blessing, and they, having to leave was a big blow. 

Now, this got me thinking, why do people leave? 

Ok, let me rephrase this, why do people leave their Christian associations? I don't mean leaving to go start a different ministry as a result of a divine order from God, but I mean leaving as a result of rift, anger, and bitterness. I thought we were all serving God together in love here? Why the sudden rancor to the point of throwing shades, calling each other out on social media, and even raising "fall down and die" prayers?. 

I understand people cannot always be together for life but isn't there a better way to go about this?

As I ponder on these questions, I remember that we were first of all humans before we became Christians and as such the human nature hasn't fully grown in the aspect of relationships. 

Relationships are the ladder that takes us to the next face of Destiny. How we nurture and manage the various relationships that are in our lives matters.

Sometimes, we allow emotions to override us, even I am greatly guilty of this but I am learning to be better. I used to get so irritated by little things and easily distracted too (my friend always jokes that I have a low attention span to relationships). For no particular reason, just like a baby playing with her toys, one minute I am all over a new relationship, and the next minute, I forget it ever existed, and for no particular reason. (I am learning to get better).

While it might be good to make an effort in building and sustaining a relationship, there are also some that we might have to let go of. These relationships might not necessarily be toxic but not healthy and helpful to us. 

I've had to let go of some very close ones recently. It still hurts but it is for the best. 

Letting go can be painful but more gain is walking in God's divine plan for you with the right people in it. 

So when letting go, be sure you do it the right way. Yes, you are God's child, the people or person you are breaking off are not Satan's children. Don't go about throwing people under the bus just because they don't align with the vision. Be wise and considerate. 

See an excerpt from Paul's letter to the Ephesians...
"So I, the prisoner for the Lord, appeal to you to live a life worthy of the calling to which you have been called [that is, to live a life that exhibits godly character, moral courage, personal integrity, and mature behavior -a life that expresses gratitude to God for your salvation]

With all humility [forsaking self-righteousness], and gentleness [maintaining self -control], with patience, bearing with one another in [unselfish] love".
Ephesians 4: 1&2 (AMPLIFIED BIBLE)

Have a most fulfilling week ahead Tribe

©Rachel Jesuseme


  1. The human mind is one that has never and can not be dissected, a complicated mind displays this in ALL settings, the church inclusive.

    The decision to either live in peace and or take a different path is solely hinged on the individual and not necessarily what he/she professes- Success Ewemade

    1. You couldn't have said it better.

      Good to read from you Success. Thanks for stopping by

  2. Letting go is not always easy.
    I will never understand why people choose to be toxic to people they once had an awesome relationship with.
    Truthfully, I understand when there is a divine call to move on, just like Abraham but the bitterness is what I don't get. Sometimes I think people are actually the ones that make life difficult with the amount of negativity they release.

    1. Sincerely I feel we need to go back and study the life of our father Abraham over and over again, go your way and not become enemies.
      Thanks for reading

  3. Thanks for sharing yes this actually applies in all relationships including workmates etc it looks different for it to happen to Christians just because of expectations we place on people....it's a journey and every one comes to that understanding at different points in life . Thanks for sharing hope many more can ponder on this because as Christians we do have a high calling.

    1. Yes, we need
      to respect the high calling over our lives and make a conscious effort to live as such. Thank you for stopping by.

  4. Well, letting go or leaving a group is not something new.
    There's a saying that twenty persons cannot play for twenty years!
    Most important thing is to close doors of relationship gently, because you might need to use them later.

    1. “The most important thing is to close doors of relationship gently because you might need to use them later.”

      This is very profound.
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this.


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